Claims related to appearance and attractiveness, hits hard on a woman's self-esteem. Before indulging in self-beating or break off the relationship, it is worth to understand the causes of the problem. Each woman is a whole universe, with its own character, habits, temperament. And on female sexual behavior is influenced by many factors.
Reason 1: the influence of tradition
Claims to the insufficient level of sexuality of the partner may arise because the man is burdened by the habitual role positions formed during joint life, and he wants to change something.
In our culture there is a stereotype that it is the partner who should take the initiative in sex, and the woman either agrees to the proposal or rejects it. A man can get tired of this arrangement, cause doubts about the sincerity and interest in him of the partner. The same feelings often arise during a midlife crisis, when a man's self-esteem drops, doubts grow in his own sexuality and demand, and then the woman he loves next to him does not understand what the problem is, as she is satisfied with everything.
Therefore, it is necessary to analyze how sexual relations in the couple were formed before, who usually initiated, how frequent were intimate contacts. If on the part of the chosen one there is a clear cooling, it is important to understand why this happened. Sit down and frankly talk, find out the desires of a woman and a man, needs, dissatisfaction. Only to do this should not be in the form of a claim, but openly and with the desire to understand and hear both sides
Reason 2: hormonal changes
There are periods when a woman is passive sexually because of hormonal changes. We are talking about pregnancy and the first months after the birth of the baby. This is absolutely normal, because at such a time in the body there are global psychological and physiological changes. And sex is often not wanted, although there are opposite situations.
In such periods it is important to organize support, attention, the opportunity to rest more. A man should not make claims, but surround his soulmate with care and help her to pass this stage faster, easier to recover.
Reason 3: emotional state
If everything is good with women's health, there are no hormonal failures, but the sex life is gradually coming to naught, you need to look for a problem in the relationship. It can be anything - not only mistrust and fear of infidelity, but also long-standing offenses, of which the man does not even suspect.
Emotions can not be suppressed, they do not go anywhere, but are blocked by the subconscious and have a devastating effect on the relationship, emotions, warmth. In this case, it is best to consult a family psychologist to understand the true causes and establish a sex life
Reason 4: desire for novelty
Another important factor in sexual cooling can be routine, monotony. One of the partners has a desire to bring something new to intimacy. It often happens that a woman runs out of patience, because she does not receive enough caresses. She does not really like what is happening in bed, and she does not want to put up with it anymore, and she is afraid to talk - and in the end she simply avoids sex.
Factors can be quite a lot, so the way out is one - carefully and tactfully talk about the topic of intimate relations and then try to bring novelty. Try trips to nature, romantic dates, dinner by candlelight, experiments with new techniques and auxiliary devices for intimate life (
Reason 5: banal manipulation
It also happens that a man tries to pressure, manipulate a woman. The basis is the fear of losing her, so out of bed he tries to settle in the partner complexes and deprive her of the society of other people to increase dependence on himself. Such a partner will say that the chosen one is not good enough, that she does not suit the color of lipstick, that she unsuccessfully cut her hair. Or that her friends are jealous of her, and her relatives only use her, so there is no need to communicate with them.
If it becomes clear that the man only criticizes you, and sharply and offensively, then, most likely, you are in an abusive relationship. And something to change in them is impossible. The best way out is to break up and try to live in a new way, heal the wounds of the soul and go on with your head held high (read also
Sexuality depends on many factors, it can be both rocked and increased, and "kill at the root". A lot depends on the emotional and physical state of a woman, on the degree of her satisfaction. But most importantly, if you do not criticize and do not take offense, but sincerely, openly and delicately talk to your partner, many problems associated with intimate relationships,
safely solved to mutual pleasure
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