What signals are important to consider at first contact and what ways of developing the relationship should be indicated in case your sexual compatibility is incomplete?
Sexual compatibility plays a huge role, because physical intimacy is an integral part of a harmonious and healthy relationship. The trainer of women's programs of the center of sexual education "Secrets" Ulyana Gromova tells about what can become a hindrance on the way to sexual compatibility. In the modern world the search for a suitable, at first glance, partner can take no more than an hour. All you have to do is download a dating app, choose your preferred criteria, view the results and go on a date. But it is only during personal contact that we realize whether we want to have sex with this person or still remain acquaintances. Nature is organized in such a way that it brings together partners with different sets of genes for the possibility of continuation of the species: the initial physical and emotional identification occurs in the shortest possible time - 10 seconds after acquaintance.
In sexual matters, not everything is so obvious. There are indisputable signals and landmarks, on the basis of which you can conclude about the sexual incompatibility of partners. And there are variables that both partners can work on. What should you pay attention to in order to understand whether you and your partner are compatible?
We get our first impression when hugging and kissing with our olfactory organ. In the human nose is vomeronasal organ, which unmistakably determines the sexual compatibility of partners by their pheromones In case the smell of the partner seems to you sharp, unpleasant, repulsive, you can not ignore it. This is a natural indicator of sexual compatibility of partners. Even if visually and intellectually a person causes you incredible sympathy, but you do not like his smell, sexual intimacy with such a person is likely to deceive your expectations
Voice timbre
The manner and speed of a person's speech can say a lot about the peculiarities of his character. Sexually attractive we can call unhurried, but at the same time not monotonous speech of a person. Confident, not breaking into a squeal or inappropriate laughter voice. It should have depth and sensuality. If you are annoyed by some words parasites, this problem can still be worked on, but if your hearing cuts the tone, speed of speech and its content, with such a person is unlikely to achieve sexual unity.
Sexual constitution and temperament
Back in ancient times our ancestors were laid frequency of sexual contacts necessary for survival. With nature can not argue, no matter how we do not try. Increase the sexual activity of a sexual partner reproaches and claims - a futile task. There is such an indicator as trochanter index, it determines your type of sexual constitution. If the couple has completely different indicators, do not try to change them, unfortunately, it is unlikely to succeed. The partners' need for sexual contacts should still be approximately equal.
Rhythm and speed
When partners have sexual intercourse for the first time, there is only a rough aftertaste of the sexual connection. Pheromones and adrenaline turn off critical thinking, and only later we feel the difference in the frequency of friction, which may be uncomfortable for us. Unpleasant sensations should not be tolerated, it is better to immediately inform your partner about them. From the rapid frequency of friction more intensely stimulated erogenous zones, someone suits a greater intensity, someone less. But find a suitable speed, satisfying both, you can always. The main thing is not to be afraid to emphasize it at the time of the act, gently guide the partner and tune in to the same wave.
Orgasm
Unfortunately, in the female orgasm, nature is not so interested in the female orgasm, because you can get pregnant without physical discharge. About pleasure, first of all, is taken care of by the woman herself and, if she is lucky, by her man. Stimulating erogenous zones, we bring the body to a peak state, but in the absence of orgasm, we do not let it discharge the accumulated energy. In the absence of emotional and physiological discharge, there follows disappointment in sex and partner, spoiling the relationship. On the one hand, a woman should work on obtaining orgasm on her own, on the other hand, she should include her partner in the search and activation of her erogenous zones
Sexual skills
None of us has an innate knowledge of what and how to do during sex. Undoubtedly, nature will tell us the basic points, but the skills of satisfaction we get in the process. It happens that we do not know our erogenous zones, and even more so we do not know the erogenous zones of our partner. Studying the erogenous zones of both partners will help to achieve the desired and not only get pleasure ourselves, but also to deliver it to the partner. Such knowledge and skills can be obtained at trainings on sexual education or from specialized literature.
Complexes
Childhood complexes leave imprints on the whole life (including sexual), even though many memories are displaced over time. There are clamps, because of which it seems that touching oneself and others is shameful and unpleasant, and sometimes even scary. In the future, such partners may not be sensual enough, cold, will not spend much time on foreplay, shy of the naked body. All these blocks in the head do not make it possible to get sexual pleasure to the fullest. If your partner or you see the problem in the complexes formed in childhood or adolescence, you should not give up, the clamps can be removed by psychologically corrective methods.
It is up to you to work on the sensual side, to look for points of contact or to find a more suitable sexual partner. But do not forget about the depth of your feelings and emotional closeness, which also play an important role
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