What new can be said (and experienced) in a matter where there has been no news since the creation of the world?
I read my first book about sex when I was 16. It was the memoirs of an American prostitute with practical exercises on what to hold and where to touch. This book became a bestseller among us horny teenagers, eclipsing Mandelstam and Babel, who were published for the first time after many years of hiatus and to whom our mothers prayed. The editions of that time were not notable for their quality. Poets and prostitutes were printed on the same whole-grain gray paper. But that didn’t stop anyone from reading. And what a memory — no offense to “Conarmia”. Twenty years passed. Every self-respecting publication 16+ has its own section “Sex”. Erotic novels and translated sex textbooks are regularly published. And nothing new, except the G-spot. In that time, mobile telephony has evolved from zero to 4G. Scientists are about to invent a DNA computer and a cancer vaccine. Neurogadgets are on the way. And as far as sex is concerned, we are treading somewhere between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. And orgasm, especially female orgasm, has become obscenely important in the eyes of the public. Not the least role in this was played by the super-popular TV series “Sex and the City” a couple of years ago. Only in “Sex…”, except for sex, there was an abyss of humor, mind-blowing Jimmy Choo sandals and men, and in life about the orgasm, as about the dead — either good or nothing. It seems that never before has sex life been so asexual, and accepting ourselves has never required so much courage. It’s as if I have to account to someone for every orgasm I get, like Victor Mancini from Chuck Palahni’s novel “Choking”. In search of a reasonable middle ground, I talked about why orgasm is necessary with Olga Kopylova, a trainer at the Academy of Private Life, and found out who needs us all to have orgasms from psychoanalyst Dmitry Olshansky. And at the same time found three modern ways to get pleasure so that it was not only pleasant, but also interesting. It turns out that the modern world of sex at the intersection of new technologies and physiology is much more inventive and witty than I had imagined.
Mental orgasm
“Orgasm is in the brain, not the genitals” is a quote from the book “How a Woman Wants It” by Emily Nagoski, an American sex education expert with twenty years of experience. Thanks, Cap. Everyone knows that the brain is involved in one way or another in the events that happen to us. So why shouldn’t the brain take the lead on something as benign as having an orgasm? Especially with a clear benefit to itself. Thanks to the enormous blood flow at the moment of orgasm, the brain immediately receives a horse dose of oxygen and nutrients. It is literally flooded with the neurochemical compounds oxytocin and dopamine, which give us a feeling of bliss and love for others. When it comes to the level of brain stimulation, orgasm surpasses all chess and checkers combined. However, there is no sensation here. The sensation is when you set up the feedback. Not when the brain receives bonuses from the work of the genitals, but the opposite — when the main action takes place in the brain: orgasm solely by the power of thought. It seems incredible, but during experiments using fMRI scanners at Rutgers University (New Jersey), women were able to achieve an orgasm identical to that achieved through physical stimulation (masturbation) by the power of imagination alone. This is possible and even recorded by devices. The author of bold experiments — neuroscientist and co-author of the book “The Science of Orgasm” Barry Komisaruk. According to him, the way to achieve mental orgasm is different for each woman. In his research, “some subjects used a combination of erotic fantasies and breathing techniques, others added hip movements, and still others imagined more abstract sensual images — such as waves of energy traveling through their bodies.” There is a real benefit to Barry Komisaruk’s discovery. Mental orgasm is a chance for pleasure for paralyzed women who have understandably given up on having sex. In this case, as a bridge between the vagina and the brain is not the spinal cord, but the vagus nerve, the presence of which in the pelvic region was a big surprise for scientists and test subjects.
“To be honest, until about ten years ago, I thought everyone was like that.” Lena K., fire safety engineer
In my circle it was not customary to discuss intimate life with parents or girlfriends. Even though my sister is a medical doctor, I realized my peculiarity when I was already a mother of two children. I’m hypersensitive. The first time I had an orgasm was when my first young man and I were riding the bus to technical school. Everything was within the limits of decency, as suddenly my heart began to beat, I all trembled, went convulsions and I almost fainted. I didn’t even know what sex was back then. I just imagined us kissing. Since then, it happens to me regularly, but, thank God, not in public places. It’s better to fantasize when there’s no one in the way. Like when I’m alone in the car. I’m standing in traffic, I think about it, remember the last time I had sex, and within 10 minutes I can cum. At my last job, I had a separate office. It was very convenient. I never imagine having sex with any actors or stars. I have enough to remember.
Corgasm
The term “corgarism” was formed from two words — “cor” (the cortex muscles are a complex of muscles that are responsible for stabilizing the pelvis, hips and spine) and “orgasm”. This is the name given to the orgasm that occurs during various types of fitness activities and is caused by the tension of the cortex muscles. Unlike the mental orgasm, here the brain is turned off completely. Therefore, the climax, which takes place in a completely work stoppage — in the middle of a crowded hall, is often a big surprise. Although what is there to be surprised about: any sexologist will tell you that rhythmic movement against a background of deep breathing and empty head — the shortest way to achieve physical pleasure. Korgasm was not talked about yesterday. The term was coined and first applied by the scandalously famous American scientist, founder of the Institute for Sex Research Alfred Kinsey in 1953. In his monograph Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, the scientist talks about 5% of his female patients who, while playing sports, suddenly had physical pleasure. With those sports in which there is indirect stimulation of the clitoris, everything is more or less clear. But in 2011, scientists from Indiana University continued Kinsey’s study. The experiment involved 370 female volunteers. While the girls were getting in shape, the scientists measured their non-sporting achievements. According to the results of this study, the exercise bike accounts for only 15% of sports orgasms, although it is the third most popular exercise machine in the gym. 20% of orgasms happen on yoga. The absolute sexual leader among the equipment is the “captain’s chair”, an unerotic-looking construction in the form of a massive chair without a seat, designed for working out the lower part of the abs. Raising your legs 90 degrees on the “captain’s chair” provides 51% of orgasms! Girls describe orgasm as pleasurable contractions in the lower abdomen. According to some reports, about 10% of all gym-goers experience orgasm, regardless of gender.
“I love sports and sex equally and find that they have a lot in common.” Irina Shch., student of the Faculty of Sociology
Both bring pleasure. In sport, the body works for results. In sex — to achieve orgasm. In both cases you need to apply certain tactics, to relax, to overcome insecurity. At university, I have been doing gender studies for three years, at the intersection of these spheres. The topic of my degree is “The Sensuality of Outdoor Sports for Women.” Outdoor exercise is the prerogative of self-confident men, no brats go there, only those who are in good shape and are not shy to show off. It’s a kind of male performance, and I wonder how women feel when there are such bodies two meters away from them. At one time I read an American study on the subject of sports orgasm. I’m a sports fanatic. I spend 20 hours a week in the gym, no less. But I’ve never had a orgasm.
Braingasm
Braingasm is a simplified name for the phenomenon of ASMR, autonomous sensory meridional response. It is another type of pleasure involving the brain, but in most cases without an erotic connotation. Talk about breingazm several years ago, when the network appeared a lot of ASMR-channels, and on them — hundreds of videos for every taste. To understand what kind of pleasure it is, remember the moments when goosebumps ran through your body (“frisson”) when you were listening to something or watching it. The exciters of frisson are called triggers. Triggers come in several types. There are auditory triggers, when pleasure is caused by whispering, rustling of pages being turned, lightly tapping your fingernails on a hard surface, or clacking of gadgets. There are visual triggers, the meaning of which is smooth repetitive movements, as in a massage. There are situational triggers, or, as they are also called, role triggers. In this case, the person enjoys watching scenes from life in which he or she is given extra attention. This can be care in a cosmetic office, a trip to the hairdresser’s, a doctor’s appointment. The phenomenon of ASMR has not yet been scientifically explained, although research is already underway. Today there is evidence of a similar phenomenon — “skin orgasm”, or “musical thrill”, as frisson is also called, which appears from strong aesthetic pleasure. Research at Wesleyan University has shown that music acts on the same pleasure centers as cocaine. But the ASMR community shrugs off such comparisons.
I started having it in junior high school — certain sounds seemed to throw me out of reality.” Angela, hostess
When I got older, at the institute, I tried to find out from my classmates if this happens to them. I found out that people are divided into two groups: those who enjoy blowing bubbles on the wrapping film, and those who are crazy about the whisk-massager for the head. A search of medical websites yielded no results. I felt like a pervert, but there’s no way I’d give up the sensation of goosebumps running from the back of my head to my neck and further down my body. My triggers are the crunch of crumpled paper bags, the sound of knitting needles, the smell of ink and lime. At the moment of such an “orgasm” you find yourself in a parallel universe — neither asleep nor awake, balancing somewhere in the middle, a silly smile on your face. It’s funny that when I get aroused, for example, if I am kissed on the neck, there are exactly the same goosebumps. My young man can tell by them whether I really like it or whether I’m trying for him.
Who needs your orgasm?
Commentary by psychoanalyst Dmitry Olshansky:
Today orgasm has turned into some kind of imposed requirement: everyone is obliged to experience it. If you don’t have orgasms, it means that something is wrong with you and it needs to be treated urgently (with pills or trainings), and if you have orgasms, there should be more of them. Thus, orgasm today is a well-marketed product and a strict social requirement. “Orgasmize!” — is what the modern matrix imposes on us. But let’s ask ourselves: who needs orgasm in the first place? It is quite obvious that the problem of orgasm exists only for those life forms that either do not have their own bodies or have lost contact with them. For example, how do they formulate this problem to us? “Something has broken in me and I have stopped having orgasms.” In other words, we are complained to that “this body is not producing the product that the matrix demands of it.” We see a totally mechanical attitude toward the body, which is seen simply as meat to serve the matrix. Problems in sex — frigidity, impotence, anorgasmia — are all the kinds of revolutions that neurotics venture into in their attempts to escape the concentration camp of the matrix. Not surprisingly, the suppression of this rebellion is met by animal psychologists who reclaim the body as a part in the machine of pleasure and consumption. The French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan linked orgasm directly to anxiety. Modern man experiences orgasm everywhere, not necessarily in bed. For example, when a student needs to pass his diploma and he delays writing it until the last minute, and then, when all the deadlines have passed, he frantically writes it. Isn’t that an orgasm? Or a young man who wants to propose to his girlfriend but has been putting it off for years and enjoys the unfulfilled action? The orgasm is the dream of any neurotic on the road to his desire. He must experience deprivation and anxiety in order for the pleasure he feels to be real.
The energy of youth
Commentary by Olga Kopylova, a trainer of the Academy of Private Life and a leading practitioner of the Orgasm Reflex practice:
If we exclude the wonders of cosmetology and Botox, who looks better — a forty-year-old man or a forty-year-old woman? Usually a man. Because men, as a rule, do not fake pleasure in bed. Orgasm works to rejuvenate every cell. However, frequent orgasms are not healthy. Once a day is not harmful. But if you are physically exhausted and at the same time constantly having sex — nothing good. Together with energy during orgasm, we throw away everything unnecessary, including mentally. What is gone, frees up space for something new — emotions, sensations, knowledge. They need to be accumulated before seeking a new orgasm. After all, fasts exist for a reason. When we give up something important, such as the joining of a man and a woman, in these moments we are storing up energy. Athletes, priestesses, and artists also consciously abstain from sex on the eve of performances. One must remember that orgasm is a very strong energy, which thanks to the kundalini comes out. There are people who engage in sacred practices like Tibetan monks. They give up sex completely, transforming sexual energy through breathing into more subtle types of energy. For example, in the Eye of Rebirth gymnastics (also known as Peter Calder’s gymnastics), there is a sixth exercise that can only be done when completely giving up sex life. Yoga has a similar exercise, nauli, and there is no such prohibition. Perhaps the point here is that during the sixth exercise — and it is performed with the abdominal muscles — sexual energy can rise upwards. And if, for example, there was sex, it will be the energy of lust. Once it goes up, it can turn into the energy of conquest — “I want the whole world.” The other side of sexuality is aggression. And that’s dangerous. The energy should be pure, so that when it rises to the top, it is directed to creation and contemplation
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