We tell you how, having chosen for yourself sex on friendship, not to get burned by feelings and realize the ideal scenario in life.
Relationships are great, but, unfortunately, there is not always enough time and energy for them. If you are one of those who now do not dream of a great and bright love, but are ready to plunge into a relationship without unnecessary obligations and dramas, we wish you luck and give you a couple of parting tips.
Do not stay the night
And don't let him stay over. Your relationship should be strictly regulated - business as usual, business as usual. Breakfasts, dinners, joint shopping trips and movies, leave it to the fans who claim your heart, not your body. Otherwise, you risk plunging headlong into the illusion of a relationship, which, most likely, your partner will gladly support. Who would turn down a bonus coffee and cheesecake after a passionate night out? Remember that your relationship is non-exclusive. Take advantage of this moment and... Don't stay overnight.
Don't be controlling
Perhaps this advice can be given to many couples, but if in familiar relationships the phrases "where are you?" and "what are you doing?" can be considered a manifestation of tenderness and care, then in our (that is, your) case it is perceived as an attempt to seize personal (and inviolable) territory. Friendship sex does not involve jealousy, claims, or any mutual interest other than sexual. To clarify: you should not be interested in who he is with now, whether he had women today, yesterday and will be tomorrow. And please do not flood him with touching messages and dreamy calls. We all realize that this is just another way of manipulation.
Respect boundaries
In fact, this point follows from the previous one. Always remember exactly what it is that binds you, and it is sex that binds you. Not love. Not affection. Not shared children, dogs or real estate. You are driven solely by physiology, so do not let feelings in any way interfere with your communication. After all, the advantage of such friendship is that you get the relationship you need without the obligatory trips to Auchan on Sundays and visits to your parents' house for dinner.
Do not forget about love
Living without love is difficult and uninteresting. Just because you at this stage of life decided to give up on relationships, preferring regular sex without commitment, does not make you an iron lady. You can date other people, you can fall in love and dream of getting married to a guy from work. The main thing is that these feelings you have aroused someone other than your lover.
Remember to protect yourself
Sex is great, but sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy are not so great. It's best to choose a contraceptive method together so you can determine the level of protection you need. Pills, condoms, patches or spirals - all this is better to discuss with your partner, and not blindly hope that will pass. Remember, your relationship is not meant to be exclusive.
Control your feelings
Falling in love with the one you're sleeping with is a simple matter, oxytocin will do everything for you. Unless you both (key word) plan to turn a fling into a long and lasting relationship with a happy ending, keep your feelings in check. One wrong move or a love text and your sex life will go back to being stagnant.
Keep a secret
You should not tell your unencumbered relationship to your family and friends. Not everyone will be able to accept and understand such a lifestyle. Unless you dream of spending weeks explaining "what about children and family?", keep your mouth shut
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